When in difficult interpersonal situations focus on determining the right action before focusing on your feelings.
In most situations the actions you should take are clear. It is your emotions that cause us to do something else. Learning how to evaluate situations separate from your emotions allows you to take the right action. When the right action is taken, eventually your emotions will align.
Meditation is one practice that helps. Meditation expands the time prior to your emotional response. It is within this time that you can choose the right action.
Emotions have a strong effect on our actions. Doing the right action is not easy. Taking the right action is a skill and a focus that requires effort and commitment.
Life is more fulfilling when emotions come after we have made the right action.